Are you feeling insecure about your body image? Is that insecurity affecting your sex life? Body image can really affect us, even during sex. For women, the way they view their bodies can have a huge impact on their levels of sexual desire and their ability to get aroused.
Men can also experience feelings of body shyness, but this does not usually interfere with their sexual function as much as it does with women. In fact, according to recent studies, along with distress in relationships, negative body image is one of the greatest disruptors of sexual enjoyment, desire, and responsiveness in women.
There are some tips you can try to prevent your insecurities from interfering with your sex life:
Believe your partner! Many men say they are frustrated because they find their partner infinitely sexy and yet she does not think the same of her body and therefore rejects him.
Decrease negative self-talk before and during sex.
Do some Kegel exercises. Use the moment of contraction that occurs during a Kegel exercise to distract your mind from its negativity.
Focus on your partner. Watch how he gets more and more excited, watch his pleasure to be with you. Acknowledge the physical evidence that he finds you desirable. Even a man with erectile dysfunction often expresses the desire for him with bodily tension and words of worship.
Beyond the advice above, you should address the problem of your insecurity with a specialist.
